Dating An Addict

blog10Dating in itself is already stressful. The problems that typically plague standard relationships, from forgetting an anniversary to cheating, create an almost impenetrable barrier in the relationship. Add in a drug-ridden past or present into the mix, and the relationship is not only stressful, but also very unpredictable.

If you’re romantically involved with a current or former drug addict, just know it’s not all bad. Dating a drug addict, as with dating anyone, comes with pros and cons.

Drug addicts, even if they have been clean for months or years, are difficult to trust. For part of their lives, addicts have been consumed with obtaining drugs and finding money to pay for them. Even if they swear they’re clean, trusting them completely is going to take time.

There is a reason addicts continue attending Narcotics Anonymous meetings and therapy sessions; dealing with addiction is a lifelong battle. Some days are better than others, but the temptation to use drugs is a strong force that can set back years of progress. As an addict’s significant other, you take on that anxiety and worry.
You constantly have to be wondering if the person you love has relapsed. What is worse is you’ll also have to consider how you’ll deal with relapse if it happens.

Ever hear the saying, “Replace one habit with another”? It’s incredibly true, especially among addicts. When trying to come or stay off drugs, they often switch vices. Smoking cigarettes, exercising or having sex are popular stand-ins. But beginning a serious relationship can be another substitute.
This quality could go either way, depending on the type of person you are. If you’re a fan of space, inconsistent talking and independence, dating an addict will bring out your worst.
A major perk of dating someone with a checkered past is that they most likely won’t judge you for yours. You have both made questionable choices or have done hurtful things at some point, so there is a mutual understanding that mistakes happen, and they don’t mark the end of the world.


February 25, 2015

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